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A 'Minor' Rant About Sex

A minor rant about sex

Birds and the bees. Hanky panky. Sideways salsa. Bedroom boogie. Intercourse. Sex.

At any given point, any given place, there are people either having or thinking about sex. Screw baseball, sex is the American pastime! Honestly, our culture is completely fixated on the act of sex and all of its wonders. I firmly believe that God originally intended for it to be an act of love and worship shared by a husband and wife, but we have gotten far, far, far, far away from that idea entirely.

We went from being a culture that believed in having only one partner to one that will literally have sex with anyone. Friends. Co-workers. Our friend's friends or significant others. Teachers. Doctors. Dentists. Some people will even go as far as laying down with their own family members *vomit* - but seriously, no one is off limits.

I have the hardest time understanding the fascination with having so many different partners. Don't get me wrong, I am no saint, but now that I'm a little older, this is something that bothers me. It bothers me for the simple fact that generations are starting to have sex at much younger ages and with more people because that's what everyone else is doing. I saw a story recently of a girl being punished and reprimanded by her parents because she just recently lost her virginity - she was 10. When I was 10, I was concerned with video games and ordering pizza on the weekends. Sex did not make it onto my list of priorities until some years later.

I blame a lot of people for this particular phenomenon, but none more than the parents and the media. Parents are at fault because they let the awkwardness of the "Birds and the bees" talk deter them from ever having the conversation with their children. Media gets a finger pointed in their direction because of the over abundance of sex laden entertainment that is completely accessible to anyone with a remote or internet connection. Children watch movies and TV shows with mature content and have access to all of the porn you could ever dream of on the internet. Naturally, curious minds will research the things that they don't understand. If parents aren't having the conversation with their children early on and explaining to them the dangers, implications, and consequences of having sex and the reasons of why they should wait - they are going to go and figure it out on their own. This is what we are seeing more and more of today. Kids are interested. They see it everywhere and it seems to be okay since everyone else is doing it, so they go and try it out for themselves.

The saying claims that curiosity killed the cat - it fails to mention that curiosity also got the cat pregnant and gave it herpes. Seriously, kids don't know what they are doing and they don't fully comprehend the fact that there are a host of diseases floating around out there. They just look at sex as something fun to do when their parents aren't home. Sure, I get it - sex is fun, but are they ready to spend the rest of their lives with an itch they can't ditch or a child of their own to raise? My guess is No.

I'm not trying to tell anyone how to raise their child or calling anyone out if their childhood resembles the story that I'm telling. It just frustrates me to see so many people fall victim to the trap of having a good time in the name of sex. Granted, a simple conversation from a responsible parent about sex probably won't do much to deter most of the youth from trying it out anyway, but at least you can say that you tried.

I wonder if any of the parents on Teen Mom wish that they had done more? Well, their kids are famous infamous and getting a check from MTV now, so they probably aren't regretting very much...

*sigh*

I digress. I'm just thinking out loud.

2 comments:

  1. Austin Wright22 November, 2013

    Such a great article and I agree 100%. My question, however, is since the amount of sex content in today's media is so darn high how much earlier would we need to talk to our kids? 6?

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  2. That is honestly a really good question. I think the best bet is to put the conversation out there as soon as they are able to understand it. It doesn't have to be detailed, but even a simple "Wait until your older" would suffice for a while and then going back for the full convo a little later would work.

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