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Valentine's Day Is NOT About Love

Valentine's day is NOT about love

One day, long ago, someone decided that it would be a great idea to designate a specific day out of the year to celebrate being in love. I am sure that when the holiday first started, it was probably a really lovely experience. It is now 2014, and the very idea of Valentine's Day makes me sick.

Let me explain, I am not a vindictive side-piece that has never experienced a real Valentine's Day. I am not a bitter male that can't get a date either. I am a married 25 year old and my wife hates v-day just as much as I do (if not more). It's the idea, that on this one day out of the entire year, we are supposed to put on this show of affection to let someone know how much we love and appreciate them. I get it, take the time to put a little extra effort towards making them feel special. That's nice, right? Nothing wrong with that...

Wrong.

Valentine's day is NOT about love anymore. 

Not in the way that most people think at least. This day is more about the love of attention. I'm almost willing to bet that users of Facebook will see their timelines overflowing with posts like "Me and the babe are going to go do such and such" or "Look at this picture of all the wonderful things my love got for me". V-day is less about spending time with the one you love and more about showing and telling everyone how your Valentine is better than theirs.

What's the point of that? Please fill me in on what happens on the other 364 days of the year in your relationship. Do you ever do nice things or buy gifts for each other simply because you want to and not because the date on the calendar said that you should? Valentine's day is just another big circus act that usually climaxes with corny marriage proposals or (if you're lucky) wild romps in the bedroom, or should that be the other way around? Whatever. The point is, I think we could do without the fanfare.

Valentine's day should just be another day of the week. I know that's unlikely to happen, so in the very least it should be a reflection of what you've been doing all year. Feb 14th should not be the first time that you go out and buy flowers for your woman or take her out to a nice dinner. Feb 14th should not be the first time you put on you sexiest outfit to try and impress your significant other either. Do these things when you feel like it, not simply because of a holiday. I can almost guarantee that the other person will appreciate it a lot more because they'll know you're doing it simply because you want to and not just because it's Valentine's Day.

But hey, what do I know?

6 comments:

  1. Sara Marzougui06 February, 2014

    I feel like you, your wife and I should start a Hater's club.
    It is so annoying to hear everyone claim that I am not a romantic because I don't like this stupid holiday. Excuse me people if I don't feel like eating the same set menu as the other 200 people in the room ... And OMG, she has a bigger flower bouquet. No sex tonight. Great celebration.

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  2. I agree. My boyf and I never treated Feb 14th as a special day. It's just like any other day for us. I mean, showing your love should not be on that day only. I don't know if you agree with me but I think it's the social media that rapidly changed people's perspective about things.

    And I agree with Sara also. Girls nowadays, sorry for the generalization, look forward more to what their boyfriends give them during vday. And if they don't receive anything, say hello to World War 3. Haha lol

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  3. V-Day Hater's Club? I think that I like the sound of that! I was just talking to my wife about this last night as well. I'd hate if we had gotten married on v-day because we would have to deal with so many people if we ever wanted to go out and celebrate. V-day is just a lot of fuss for no reason at all! Thanks for reading and commenting!

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  4. I think that you have a real point there. Social media made it possible for people to immediately show what they are doing and what they got and they can get instant gratification from how many comments/likes the posts receive. It's sad really. Doing that takes you completely out of the actual "moment" that you're trying so hard to show the world. Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

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  5. Exactly and it's getting worse now. I wonder how low can people go with competing with their friends who have more number of likes or something. You're welcome anyway. I love your posts :)

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  6. Hey I can understand that. V-day is different for everyone. I'm military as well so I know how that can be. I hope you guys enjoy your time together! Thanks for reading and commenting!

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